While thinking about what topic I wanted to discuss today, I stumbled on THESE QUESTIONS that are psychologically intended to bring people closer. You can go through them with a good friend, family member, in a group setting or even on a social media site. If you ask these questions to someone you’re romantically involved with it will raise the stakes and make things interesting! The questions are designed to target specifics that will reveal a persons character/hopes/intentions/regrets etc.
Today I thought it would be fun to answer some of them, so you can get to know me better. I’m going to choose 10 random questions. If there’s one you really wanted to know that I skip, next time you see me… ask away. If you want to take part or answer some of them, I would love to hear your answers too.
39 Thought Provoking Questions
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
No, I don’t think I would want to be famous. I like my privacy and I’ve already been through times where I’ve been judged up and down. I don’t really care to go through that again, although I would handle it much better now. I would like to be influential in some way, leave my mark on the world, but I don’t think that necessarily equates to being famous. If I was famous for something I would like to think it would be for something I’m passionate about… maybe from writing a book someday.
3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
No. I think I’m better when I’m just real and off the cuff. If I think about something too much I might talk myself out of it. I’m a believer in saying things that need to be said, even if it’s hard. Lay it all out on the table. Life’s too short to be anything other than boldly authentic.
4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
I sing all the time! I used to perform quite a bit and miss doing that. Let’s see, the last time I sang to myself was in the car ride back from the library with my little man an hour ago, and I was rocking out to Katy Perry’s “Dark Horse” and Pharrell’s “Happy.” The last time I sang to someone else was last weekend when I was doing yard work and had music blaring on the jambox. Does that count?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or the body of a 30 year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
We both love to laugh about everything. We’re both wicked smart. Hah, no that’s just him. We both have the cutest kids in the world.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
Undoubtedly, my family. I cherish them and all their shenanigans. I am also extremely grateful for all our of our health. Knock on wood.
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell you partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
I value friends who are genuine. I value friends who can make me laugh and who don’t take themselves too seriously. I value friends who make me want to be better and work harder. I value friends who aren’t judgmental. I value friends who are innovative and creative. I value friends who are honest.
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
My family was very close growing up and still to this day. I’m the oldest of six kids and and feel very lucky to have all my siblings in my life. We’ve had our share of hardships and bumpy times as we each have gone through things, but I think all of those things made us stronger. It’s the hard stuff that binds you.
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”
26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
I cried when my grandpa passed away. Death is so hard for me to wrap my head around. The hurt just sneaks up on you in unexpected moments. Love that man.
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
My laptop! It has all my pictures of my family (I kind of have a problem… I’m a bit obsessed with pictures) and it also has a zillion hours of things I’ve written.
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
37. If you could choose the sex and physical appearance of your soon-to-be-born child, would you do it?
Ah! This is a hard one. Of course you want to give your child all the best opportunities in the world… but the question is WHAT makes something the best opportunity? I know many beautiful/handsome people who are unkind or nasty. And how could I give more weight to one gender or the other? I would talk myself in circles trying to decide this one. I don’t think I would want to do it. If I did, I would always blame myself for any ramifications. AH. This one makes me feel stressed out.
38. Would you be willing to have horrible nightmares for a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth?
39. While on a trip to another city, your spouse/lover meets and spends a night with an exciting stranger. Given they will never meet again, and you will not otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it?
Well…. I’ve already answered ten! Hah
Alright, I had fun answering these and I hope they make you think. If you answer any questions on a social media site be sure to tag me. Or hopefully they will generate some interesting conversation with someone!
We’re half way through the daylight savings nonsense week! See ya next time!
Brooke